Blame is mental glue- how to get unstuck!

Blame is Mental Glue! 

blame is mental glue

When you blame others, you give up your power to change. Robert Anthony Click To Tweet

Blame is like mental glue!

It attaches your thoughts to anger, injustice

and the crippling effects of a problem.

It sticks to an image of the people who have hurt you and

limits your  focus on the person who can help you heal, YOU!

It adheres your mind to the  “wrong” of others

and ignores any wrong in your own life.

Blame is sticky business because

it can’t give you a solution

it can’t make you feel better

it can’t help you move forward in life

it can’t change your future

Blame labels you a helpless victim and never an overcomer Click To Tweet

How can we start to feel unstuck from Blame?

We can begin to detach from blame by practicing an opposite action found in scripture!

 (Colossians 3:12-13 ESV)

But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, sslander, and obscene talk from your mouth.

Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive

You can:

Let go of blaming others and

learn to solve your own problems

seek compassion for those who have hurt you

 release your emotional suffering with forgivness

discover new options to promote peace in the future

breath in appreciation and gratitude for the good things in your life

purposefully exhale the negative thoughts

Live in the moment and not the painful past

Trust that all things will be make right in God’s timing



“Concern yourself more with accepting responsibility than with assigning blame.

Let the possibilities inspire you more than the obstacles discourage you.” Ralph Marston



A prayer to get unstuck from Blame:

God, I realize that I have been blaming (a person or a situation) for causing me pain. I acknowledge the wrong that was done to me through this person or situation and I chose to forgive them, in Jesus name. I ask that you would release my negative emotions from this situation and fill me with the knowledge that you will help me as I trust you to reveal to me new solutions and blessings in my future.




A Practice of Prayer recycles pain

Prayer recycles paina repurposed heart

What was your plan that hit the can?  Was it a lost dream, marriage or friendship? As women it is so easy for our emotions to make us feel trashed with the fear of failure and insecurity of lost relationships.  Today, will you consider opening your hands and letting go of trying to be in control of that plan?

I know it hurts but be encouraged!

God’s purpose will be accomplished in you and through you, regardless of this situation.

Admitting to painful emotions is the first step unraveling their power.

Following my mother’s death, God revealed to me that I had to get my heart in the right place –

 In a figurative sense, the recycling bin of prayer is the place for my heart to seek healing changes not a trashcan. I began to view my prayer time as the place where I would sit to sort through my painful emotions with God, one by one. With tears streaming down, it was not a pretty process but it was life giving.  Most counselors will agree: You can’t heal from it, if you won’t deal with it!

Here’s my simple recycling prayer:

God I feel_( insert emotion)_________________ about (situation _________________________ because.( insert your feelings about the situation)

Help me to trust you with this!


I found the practice of confessing my painful emotions before God gave me the ability to see answers in his word.  When I admitted I felt helpless, God’s word told me God would hold me together.( Ps 57:1-3the message) When I admitted I was lonely, the words of Jesus seemed to whisper, I will never leave you or forsake you!


Is there a deep hurt that you have never admitted to God? Don’t be afraid to pray a recycling bin prayer before the one who can change your heart. I am a friend to remind you that God is not afraid of any hurt you give Him.  It is in the messy emotional state of feeling trashed that we often find the message that will change the world by faith.