bE-You- tiful!

I saw her this morning in the school parking lot.

I know I shouldn’t feel this way, but I could tell by the neat state of her children, she had it all together. I glanced at her while my children fumbled with their books and bags and half packed gear. Inside, I felt a wave of inferior fear that caught me by surprise, just like the lost agenda my child forgot to bring to school.

In that moment, every mother I saw looked better than me:

She was in work out clothes with legs like a twenty-year-old

She was perfectly manicured from her freshly highlighted hair to her french pedicure

She was wearing designer clothes while I still had on running shorts. Sigh-

It’s a challenge as mothers to see our real value and beauty that only we possess when we compare ourselves to others. I’ve learned over the years, that in this moment of focusing on everyone else, I loose sight of the unique beauty I possess for my family.  I am not talking about my external beauty that seems to be fading like a forty year old flower, but the internal beauty that can stay alive and fresh for years.


1.) Inner beauty is unfading, thank you God 

I Peter 3:3-4

Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.


2.) Comparison is not a great mirror for beauty!  

2 Corinthians 10:12

We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.


AS I write this blog in my running shorts and pony tailed hair, I’m  curious if you are need a make-over in your heart today?

Do you need to remember that beauty comes from the inside out?


Hopefully, like me you will be encouraged to be your own kind of beautiful today-

real beauty, just be you

Is your confidence wilted?



I stared through tears at the flowers on my coffee table in the room where I go to meet God each morning…The weeks events were hard and not what I expected. The flowers seemed to represent my wilted confidence and my drooping hope for the future. As my head drooped too, I muttered a prayer,” God, I feel so sad- just like these drooping flowers”

Of all things, I am leading a women’s conference this week and I was feeling ill-equipted to lead anyone at the moment.”Wilted Flower Woman” can’t lead anyone at the moment, including herself!

Ministry is hard like that on people who are getting ready to share what is in their heart. It seems like the week before each talk or presentation I am faced with difficult situations that seem to rattle my self-confidence and stir up feelings of self-doubt and fear. “

As I was about to enter into another difficult conversation and confront a painful relationship,( gulp)My tendency is stuff my negative emotions inside because I am afraid of confrontation!  My door bell rang. Who in the world is coming over now? Unsuspectedly, I looked at my front door step and found a fresh bouquet of flowers. Shocked, It took my mind a minute to understand what was going on? Flowers? It is March, not Valentines Day, so it couldn’t be from my husband? I reached for the flowers as I saw the delivery person scampering quickly into their car. Suddenly, I realized the delivery person looked quite familiar….yes, I know this girl…..

She jumped out of her car and laughed, ” You answered the door so quickly and I couldn’t run fast enough.”

“She” was a precious friend who drove over  to give me flowers with a card that told me how much God loves me, not even knowing about my drooping roses in my prayer room.

I gave her the biggest hug and ran back in the house feeling refreshed. My sadness turned into joy as I realized the truth of my wilted flower prayer:

If the God of the universe has the power to hear me tell Him I feel like a wilted flower and send a friend to bring me fresh ones, then He is able to help me work through my painful relationships.

This display of His power wrapped my heart in the renewal of my confidence that it is God’s work alive and active in me and not my own! It is His faithfulness in me that will speak to women at the conference.

He can refresh my communication skills to give me words of love and not condemnation

He can take away the fear that makes me want to run from difficult conversations

He can send me people to love me even when I feel unloved

He can make a message come alive with His spirit even when I feel like a mess!

Maybe you need some fresh flowers today to remind you that your God can and will be with you to perk up your joy?

I am sending you a picture of the ones my friend gave me, so I can be the friend to you that says,

Philippians 1:6(GNT)

And so I am sure that God, who began this good work in you, will carry it on until it is finished on the Day of Christ Jesus.