Ask God How to live : Radical Acceptance and 50 things the Holy Spirit can Do for you

Radical Acceptance

“Earthly wisdom is doing what comes naturally. Godly wisdom is doing what the Holy Spirit compels us to do.” —Charles Stanley



Have you ever experienced a pain so deep that you did not want to live with the reality of that loss?

Fighting  Reality !

It’s was hard for me to accept what I didn’t want to be true. 

I lived trapped in a world of why after my nephew died. Why God Why? Then my mother, best friend, died five months later and again I mourned with the another question of why.

Why ?

The world of why demands answers that will only be received in heaven. The unanswered questions of “why”  kept me me stuck trying to fix the past and prevent failure in the future.

We wonder why in time of loss as our minds refuse to accept our new reality. Click To Tweet

Accept Reality

Reality acknowlegdes that the plans of our life have radically changed and the only way to move forward is radical acceptance.

Radical acceptance is a concept developed by Marsha Linehan. 

Radical acceptance is accepting life as it is and not as we would wish it to be Click To Tweet.

It doesn’t mean you like or approve of it, it just means you are willing to accept what you cannot change or choose.

After about three weeks of crying on the floor and asking God for an answer, my door bell rang. I opened the door to find a friend with a gift for me.

I opened the gift and the picture frame held a one word answer for me…..

The picture frame said –


God was calling me to live in the reality of my losses without trying to change!


Even when I felt like I wanted to die


Even when I didn’t like being alone without my mother or my nephew

I found my verse to accompany my call to live;

Psalm 118:17 I will not die but live, and will proclaim what the LORD has done.

Are you having hard time living with the reality of your radical change of plans?

I have some good news. Through daily prayer, I began to experience the power of the Holy Spirit who could help me radically accept and live again.

God promises that He will give us His spirit when we don’t know how to live.

Maybe you need to be encouraged with what the Holy spirit can do for you?

Here is a list of 50 things as quoted by the blog of Frank Viola in Beyond Evangelical :

Prayer Practice 9: Father Forgive them

Luke 23:34

 Jesus said,  “Father Forgive them for they know not what they do-“


People don’t realize they hurt our feelings and wound our soul.

I was struggling to survive, after my mother and nephew died. People expected me to be normal the day after the funeral. Unless you have suffered grief yourself, you don’t understand the long-term process of healing and  compassion needed.

Weeks after the funeral, a friend got mad at me for not picking up his child at our youth group. I felt attacked in my grief and inability to coordinate much of anything. I couldn’t even speak the words to defend myself and  just cried myself to sleep that night. Although I thought of hateful words in my heart, I realized :

No one understands grief until they have lost someone.

No one understands the pain I was experiencing unless I tell them.

Most of all, No one understands hurt better than Jesus.

Jesus too, suffered pain in relationships. He was wounded both physically and emotionally by the people he loved.

Unlike us, he did not sin with aggressive retaliation or frozen passivity in response to another person. He chose forgiveness.

Jesus used pain to demonstrate the power of forgiveness. Click To Tweet



Whatever the injury, I try to use the words of Jesus to begin to pray forgiveness into a situation.



Prayer intention: Forgive


Dear Lord,

I am struggling today with a relationship with someone who doesn’t even realize that I am hurting. They don’t realize the emotional pain I experience as a result of their actions. I pray the words of Jesus, that you would forgive ____________________, because they have no idea of the pain they have caused me. Give me the strength to release this hurt into your hands and gentle ability to confront this person in love in the future.


I ask in Jesus Name-Amen

Prayer 6: Help my unbelief!

40 Powerful prayers blog post

Mark 9:23-24

But if You can do anything, take pity on us and help us!” 

And Jesus said to him, “‘If You can?’ All things are possible to him who believes.”

Immediately the boy’s father cried out and said, “I do believe; help my unbelief.”

A powerful three word prayer: Help my unbelief ! Click To Tweet

My Uncle is a pastor and godly man who has shaped many key moments in my life through prayer. Before critical moments in our lives, we always picked up the phone to call Uncle Johnny. We joked that he had the hotline to God or the direct 911 to heaven. He is always quick to tell me he doesn’t have any power in his prayer, but God does. For me, there is nothing as powerful as an “Uncle John” prayer over the phone.

Do you have a person who you rely on for powerful prayer?

Somehow, when it’s just me and God alone, I can feel less authoritative in my prayers.

I squeak out the words…God, if you can do anything, help!

The prayer even when we doubt is Lord help me believe Click To Tweet

help me believe

One time, I remember Uncle John telling me that even if we are feeling weak in prayer we can cry out to God with the simple prayer of the father in Mark 9. ”  Help my unbelief. “

Maybe you don’t feel very authoritative or powerful in your prayers or maybe you don’t have access to a person to pray with you? Sometimes it’s easier to believe God in prayer when we have another person with us.

God is the only one who can help us with our unbelief. Click To Tweet

Are you feeling less faith today? Just ask God to help your unbelief !

Remember the words of Jesus himself, All things are possible to him who believes!

prayer intention: Help me believe

Dear God,

Help me believe, and even help my unbelief !

In Jesus Name- Amen

Prayer Practice 2: Ask For Wisdom


James 1:5 

But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God,

who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him.

Spiritual wisdom is God's way of providing the guidance we need for each day. Click To Tweet

God desires us to ask him for wisdom and not to seek it on the internet, self-help shelves or even on the cell phone from a friend. When we really need guidance in the deepest parts of our heart, we are told in the book of James, to ask God who will give without judging us. God wants to give our minds the wisdom we need for each day and the guidance for big decisions.

A biblical example of asking for wisdom was Solomon. Solomon could have asked God for any of the riches of the world, but instead he asked God for wisdom. God blessed Solomon with this request and made him one of the wisest men in History. He authored the book of Proverbs in the Bible. We can take courage from Solomon’s prayer to God.

Solomon prayed: Give your servant therefore an understanding mind to govern your people, that I may discern between good and evil, for who is able to govern this your great people?”

Be encouraged today!

Dr.Paul M Elliot writes in Teaching the Word Ministries that believers already have 90 % of the wisdom we need :

“Dear Christian friend, if you understand the general principles of God’s Word, if you read it and study it so that the Bible’s way of thinking becomes your way of thinking – you’ll probably have at least ninety percent of the answers to your questions about what the will of God is for your life. Am I making a decision, am I following a path, that conforms to the general principles for Christian life, thinking, and conduct that are laid down in the pages of Scripture? Asking and answering those kinds of questions based on the authority of the Word of God is what the Apostle Paul calls here spiritual wisdom. The overwhelming majority of the decisions we need to make as Christians are clearly governed by this kind of wisdom.”

Todays prayer intention: Ask God for wisdom 

God –

I come to you today asking for wisdom beyond my understanding. Just as you gave the gift of wisdom to Solomon, who could have asked you for riches or the wealth of the world, I am asking you for the riches of divine wisdom in my specific situation. Speak to me through the pages of the bible. Confirm scripture to me throughout my day. Help my mind to become focused on your will and your ways.

I ask this in the name of Jesus -Amen