Advice from a 70 year old woman

I held a prayer breakfast in honor of my friend Shannin, the mother of the groom,  who was going to watch her first born son get married the next day.

At the breakfast, her closest friend and family members  were sharing spiritual advice from their hearts. The grandmother of the bride spoke up and said something I have never heard.

She spoke softly,” I have learned there is no place for fear in the life of a Christian woman of prayer. As I have prayed all my life for my marriage and the future marriage of my children and grandchildren, I am able to look back on answered prayer in every situation and realize, all things are( in life )as they were meant to be.”

The advice from a seventy year old woman?  All things are as they were meant to be…

These words whirled in my head as I pondered deeply at the meaning behind this phrase.

This woman with the frosted blonde hair and touches of gray had learned the art of confidence in prayer. She held the wisdom of years of experience seeing God bring about good plans in unexpected ways and so she could say even of the pain that there is purpose

All things are as they were meant to be…

Though this woman appeared comfortable as softened wrinkles cascaded around her smile, she had not avoided the hard times of three rounds of breast cancer  and the loss of numerous businesses but she still insisted –

All things are as they were meant to be….

I looked at the crystal tears sliding down her face and I knew her words were ringing true in my own loss and in my own pain of not having a mother to whisper words of wisdom into my life anymore. After five years of mourning the loss of my mother, I am beginning to learn :

All things as as they were meant to be -The loss I experienced is part of a design being woven into a plan with great purpose.

I don’t need to fear the look and feel of pain that seems to unravel the tapestry.

Each thread is unique to the picture God is creating to represent His grace in me.

images-3I captured her words for my heart and couldn’t wait to share them with you.

Will you consider sharing these words that were given to me and taking them for your own life?

If you have a few words of advice you would like to share, I would love to hear from you!

Maybe you can agree with the marriage advice given by a seventy year old woman?

 

When you feel disapointed

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Even when others disappoint me with their actions –

God will not disappoint me with His ability

to change my reaction and help me find joy again

 

Me-minders are designed to help you remember anchoring statements when you feel negative emotions. They are can be printed out or written on a small piece of paper as a quick reference.

Do you have a me-minder that you say to yourself? Feel free to share it here and you just may see it published on my blog 🙂

Thank you for reading –

Do Godly women feel overwhelmed?

Do you think Godly women feel overwhelmed?

     Yesterday, I read a Facebook post from a very mature Christian woman in my church.  At first, I saw the  scripture on thankfulness she wrote and had a quick cynical thought, ” Great, another scripture post telling me to be thankful from a happy person .” (sigh) Then, she admitted to being overwhelmed by an aging parent and the fear of uncertainty in her life. Because she told her struggle, the  scripture she shared came alive with possibilities for me when I feel overwhelmed-

Our hearts resonate with authenticity and honesty.

“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”― Brené Brown

 

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In a place of acceptance, we find grace and mercy to change and grow.

We need more Christian women to admit to feeling overwhelmed …

 

This is a small sample of  her post….

1 Thessalonians 5:18 — In everything give thanks for this is the will of God inChrist Jesus concerning you.

He said it says “In” everything not “For” everything! Right now for me I have been emotionally overwhelmed with my Moms recent health changes. It’s made me sad and to be real honest I have had moments of fear of what’s ahead. But this morning God used this precious man and this scripture to speak to my heart. God spoke to me ” Be thankful in these days with your Mom and in these circumstances and stages of her life that have changed! I’m not asking you to be thankful for it but be thankful in it! “Wow! In my heart I do believe the thankfulness for it comes after the storms because then we can look back and see the hand of God and we are better for it but I’m choosing today to be thankful in everything! 

Do Godly women feel overwhelmed?

yep!

How about you?

Are you feeling overwhelmed about a certain situation? Are you feeling overpowered or fearful about a some thing you can’t change?

 Would you like to share your own situation or some thoughts? Feel free to add comments and join the discussion of feeling overwhelmed

I would love to hear from you-

Risk Becoming Overwhelmed

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Summer is a hard time for me as I remember the loss of my nine year old nephew, Philip. He died from a very rare case of PAM- primary ambeobic meningitis contracted from lake water. The hot humidity in the air feels like a slap in my face every time I walk outside and feel the sting of reminders. Memories can overwhelm me.

Recently, my sister in law (Phil’s Mom)  posted a quote she found written in his last science report for school.

He penned these words,

“To me, science is so complicated that when I try to figure it out, I feel like I could get amnesia. But I am still so interested in why things happen that I enjoy the risk of becoming overwhelmed by it.”

This summer God has given me Phil’s own words to comfort my own heart and gain wisdom for the future! 

 

I must begin to risk becoming overwhelmed 

 

Risk becoming overwhelmed when I am  sad and don’t have all the answers ….

Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.

Jeremiah 33:3

Risk becoming overwhelmed when I am afraid and fear I don’t have words to comfort my family…

“As for me, this is my covenant with them,” says the LORD. “My Spirit, who is on you, will not depart from you, and my words that I have put in your mouth will always be on your lips, on the lips of your children and on the lips of their descendants–from this time on and forever,” says the LORD.

Isaiah 59:21

Risk becoming overwhelmed when I am mad my resources seem limited….

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.

2 Corinthians 12:19 

Dear God-  

Even as I write these words, my fingers and heart tremble because at times, I am so scared.

Help me run the risk of daring greatly in this life, when I don’t have all the answers, when I seem to be overwhelmed with uncertainty.

Help me trust your overwhelming power, peace and joy that will enable me to live for your great kingdom purposes.

Release my hold on my small plans to play it safe in this life-

Oh God, help me risk becoming overwhelmed…

 

Thank you Phil- I will always love and remember you ! You will always be my precious nephew!


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Go ahead and get in the Ocean of His love !

Foot Selfies in the Sand-

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During the summer, social media is popping with pictures of sandy shores, foot selfies in flip-flops with an aqua blue ocean in the background.

Friends of mine are arriving at the beach and relaxing while watching waves roll onto the warm sand. Recently, I learned something shocking about a few friends of mine.

They NEVER swim in the ocean while at the beach!

WHAT? My Floridian mind could not comprehend what I was hearing! I wondered why they would sit on the beautiful shore but not experience the cooling waters of the sea? They feel completely safe on the sand but don’t like the feeling of the unknown lurking in the water.

Why aren’t they in the ocean ? Simple answer from both:

Fear of Sharks

Here is an interesting statistic on sharks from an article called Why you Shouldn’t be Worried about Shark Attacks-

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“Although most Americans know in their brains that their chances of being bitten by a shark are slim, they remain more fearful of sharks than, say, collapsing sand holes, which statistically kill more people at the beach.”

Can you believe more people die from collapsing sand and sinkholes that shark attacks?

Even though we perceive the sand to be safe, it is the very area where more deaths occur. We all have “safe places” we have created in our mind. “Safe places” whisper to our hearts, ” if you will just stay here, nothing bad will happen to you.” This is an empty promise that paralyzes our faith.

Where is your safe place- your shark free zone?

 Is it a place of emotional , spiritual  or physical protection?

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What do you need to really make you feel safe in the uncertainty of life?

The truth is that no specific person, place or behavior can guarantee our safety. Life is full of the unexpected and unplanned events, even in the places we feel are “safe.”In Mathew 3:9 Jesus warned the people, “Don’t just say to each other, ‘We’re safe, for we are descendants of Abraham.” In other words, don’t think that a certain religious background or person other than God can keep you safe in life. God’s love for us is our true protection.

God’s love for us is like  an ocean of  protection surrounding us, even with the unknown lurking below. 

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Be reminded from Psalm 103:17

“But from everlasting to everlasting the LORD’s love is with those who fear him, and his righteousness with their children’s children–“

 

The truth is that fear, be it exaggerated or realistic, limits all of us in life. Fear limits us from enjoying fun activities, beautiful surroundings and wonderful new experiences. Sometimes fear fools us into believing that we can magically avoid pain and sorrow if we just play it safe in life! I am certainly not encouraging reckless or dangerous behavior, but I am challenging myself and others to really begin to overcome the limitations of unhealthy fear.

 

What fear is holding you back today?

Maybe it’s not the fear of sharks but what is keeping you from diving into a new opportunity or brand new relationship? For me, it is often the temptation to play it safe by avoiding conflict or hard conversations with others that keeps me on the shore of fear. As I write this blog, I am dealing with a fear of confronting a situation that has been bugging me for a long time. I tend to stuff negative feelings way too long in an effort to not hurt someone else. By the time I confront the person, I am not as effective in my conflict resolution as I would have been if I would deal with things quickly!

Will you grab my hand and head in to the ocean of love with this simple prayer ?

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Dear Lord,

I know that I have been playing life safe by __________________________________. I confess that I am only truly safe in the protect of your love for me.

I ask that you would replace my need for human safety with your spirit of protection over my life that reminds me to trust you, to obey you and know you are with me.

Help me to let go of my fear and trust your love for me by _____________________________________________________. I ask this in the name of Jesus, Amen –

 

 

Prayer is always the best shark free zone possible !